The CRM process is different because I do not consider mediation to be a one-time event. In the typical mediation, parties feel unusual pressure to get the case settled. Attorneys often tell their clients that the day of mediation is their “best opportunity” to avoid going to trial.

While mediation undoubtedly presents that opportunity, it does not need to be a one day marathon. I typically schedule mediation sessions for two to three hours at a time and a week or so apart.

• This gives plenty of time to work out difficult issues and frequently several issues in the same session.
• But it also gives time to gather more information when not all of the necessary information is available to resolve a particular issue.
• It gives time for thought and prayer about a particular issue.
• It allows both parties to fully understand the decisions they are making.
• And, it avoids forcing the parties to make decisions simply because “time is running out.”

While the process might take a little longer, frequently fewer hours are actually spent in mediation and the parties are much more comfortable with – and therefore much more committed to – the final agreement.

Finally, my process is different because I am both a lawyer and a Christian. As a lawyer, I have over 25 years of experience dealing with these issues. I have negotiated many, many agreements in many different legal settings. I know the issues. I know the tactics. I know the emotions. While I am not acting as a lawyer in the mediation process, I do rely on my experience as a lawyer to help parties avoid the pitfalls of litigation and better understand the process and the terms of their agreement. Neither party is my client. I am able to guide them through the process without trying to “win.” As a mediator, I have the luxury of not being required to seek a particular result for a specific client. In the end, my only goal is an agreement that makes the most sense for the parties and gives them the best opportunity to continue their relationship long into the future.

As a Christian, I bring a completely different perspective to the mediation process. I view mediation – especially family mediation – as a ministry. I do this because I feel called to try to help people in difficult situations, and I know how much it hurts to have disagreements pull apart important relationships. I want to help preserve or repair those relationships because I think that is how we obey God’s command to love one another. You certainly don’t have to be a Christian to participate in this process. But, whatever your religious or spiritual beliefs, you should be assured that I am dealing with you in love, prayer, and compassion. My goal is to resolve disputes and reconcile relationships so that people can live in peace with each other in the way God has commanded us.